Kristi Noem, her husband Bryon, a double life - and the question of who is actually embarrassing whom

Kristi Noem was head of the U.S. Department of Homeland Security. She handled the most sensitive security information in the country, led the largest law enforcement agency in the United States, and posed so frequently in uniform for cameras that she earned the nickname “ICE Barbie.” That was her image. Now the image is gone - and what emerges underneath is difficult to put into words.

Her husband Bryon Noem, 56, led a double life under the name “Jason Jackson.” He chatted with adult performers, sent them photos of himself with balloons under his shirt - positioned to imitate breasts, knots as nipples - wore form-fitting green leggings, pink biker shorts, puckered his lips at the camera, and transferred at least 25,000 dollars via PayPal and Cash App to his online contacts, in amounts between 500 and 1,000 dollars per payment. The whole thing is known as “bimbofication” - a fetish community in which participants present themselves as exaggerated Barbie-like figures. One of the performers describes Bryon’s preference directly: his thing was huge, ridiculously large breasts. He asked one woman if she would ever go bigger. When she sent him revealing photos, he in turn sent selfies in minimal outfits. “You are turning me into a girl,” he wrote. “Should I wear leggings?”

Bryon denied the second part of the allegations in his response to the press. He did not deny the first part.

One of the women accidentally dialed his number and heard a voicemail greeting: “Noem Insurance, leave a message.” She searched the name and found photos of Kristi and Bryon Noem. Her comment: she was completely shocked. She thought he should be worried - his wife could lose everything she had ever worked for. Bryon responded: he did not care.

A second woman describes a pattern that continued over a longer period of time. Bryon said he loved his wife and wanted to do better. Then he disappeared, came back, and started again. Over and over. In these conversations, Bryon openly admitted to being married and a father.

At the same time, Bryon spoke in these chats about his wife’s alleged affair with Corey Lewandowski - Trump’s long-time confidant, who is also married and has children. When one of the women confronted Bryon about it, he responded: “I know. I cannot do anything about it.” Lewandowski recently accompanied Noem on an official trip to Guyana - without any formal government role, as the State Department emphasized. When Noem was asked under oath before Congress in March whether she had ever had sexual relations with Lewandowski, she did not deny it. Instead, she said she found it outrageous that tabloid gossip was being spread in that committee.

National security experts state clearly that Bryon Noem’s activities would have made Kristi Noem vulnerable to blackmail as a cabinet secretary. A current government official says this would have cost anyone else their security clearance. Kristi Noem had access to some of the most sensitive information in the U.S. government - and her husband was chatting under a false name with adult performers, speaking openly about his wife, and sending compromising photos of himself to women he met online. Several senior DHS sources confirm: had this behavior been known, it would have disqualified Noem from holding a security clearance.

Trump learned of Bryon’s double life through a phone call. His reaction: he knew nothing about it, he had seen nothing, he felt sorry for the family. A few weeks earlier, he had fired Kristi Noem - over an unauthorized advertising campaign worth 220 million dollars in taxpayer funds, which she attributed to Trump before Congress, something Trump angrily denied. We had helped uncover this story in mid-2025 and published it again in the magazine on January 27, 2026. See article: Secret Honorarium in a Horse’s Name - How Kristi Noem Enriched Herself With Political Donations

A member of Bryon’s extended family says that about 20 years ago he decided that it was his calling from God to support his wife in everything she does. He endured the humiliations. Whether he will continue to do so this time remains open. “I believe he honors God’s calling,” the family member says. “But it seems like there has to be a line somewhere.” Kristi Noem wrote on her wedding anniversary in 2018 that she was blessed with a wonderful husband who loves the Lord and his family. In 2019, she wrote in a blog that Bryon understands the responsibility God gives to men to lead their families. In an interview in 2022, she described herself and Bryon as a transparent family - an open book.

Kristi Noem is -still- in the government. She is now Special Envoy for Security of the Western Hemisphere - a newly created position that no one held before her and whose exact responsibilities no one has been able to fully explain to this day. Kristi and Bryon Noem have known each other since high school. They married in 1992, have three children - Kassidy, 31, Kennedy, 29, and Booker, 23 - and for decades presented themselves as a model family with deep faith and traditional values. In this case, the Lord apparently works under the name Jason Jackson.